NEEDS

The funny thing about needs that I have begun noticing is how hard we try not to have them.  Beyond the basic needs of food, water, shelter, we don’t want to need or risk appearing needy to ourselves or others.  The irony of this is that we are created to have needs of many kinds.  We need to be liked, loved, appreciated, connected and a whole list of other emotional needs.  We are made that way!  So, ignoring or denying our needs only serves to make us miserable, lonely, discouraged and maybe even bitter.  If we can acknowledge to ourselves that we have needs and those needs deserve to be met, whether that be by ourselves or from others, we are in a much more healthy place emotionally!  Don’t misunderstand however, that I am not saying that another person HAS to meet our needs, or that they will even WANT to meet our needs.  All I am saying is that we expend much of our energy trying NOT TO NEED!  But we do anyway, so being ok with that is very freeing, and honestly, how can we possibly get our needs met if we are unwilling to share them with ourselves and/or others?