TRYING

How do you TRY to do something?  I have used example in my office of putting a pen in my hand and asking the client to ‘try’ to take it from me.  It is AMAZING to me at the ways they try….grabbing, pushing, slapping.  But none of them realize it is sort of a trick.  You cannot TRY to take it!  You either DO, or you DON’T.  Think about it.  They take the pen or they leave the pen.  You cannot TRY to do anything!  So, how often do we use that excuse when making plans, avoiding something distasteful, or not working on things we know we need to.  “I’ll try to get to it.”  I could give you a million examples in every day life when we (all) do it.  So, begin being aware of that in your life.  Change it to “I’m working on it” or something else that gives you more accountability in your languaging.  Whenever I hear someone say “I’ll try” I KNOW they will NOT succeed or follow through.  That is the way the brain is wired.  This is a HUGE back door for us to not have to do what we may even have ‘promised’ ourselves or others that we will do!  Stop trying and do it, OR say no (in some form or another)!!